He can go from midnight till morning even when I was in serious pain due to ankle sprain – Nigerian woman shares her experience of ‘sexual abuse’ in marriage

He can go from midnight till morning even when I was in serious pain due to ankle sprain – Nigerian woman shares her experience of ‘sexual abuse’ in marriage

A Nigerian woman, Quenny Ogechukwu, who left her marriage has shared her experience of ‘marital sexual abuse’ 

Ogechukwu, who shared this in a Facebook post on Wednesday, April 9, claimed that her estranged husband frequently subjected her to long hours of sexual activity; going from midnight till morning, 5 to 6 times a week. 

According to her, the man was mostly sexually active with her whenever she was sick, looked miserable or tattered. 

She recalled an instance when she was in serious pain due to an ankle injury but instead of being empathetic, he suddenly demanded for sex. 

“I think people who are violent in their relationship are people with inferiority complex disguising as superiority complex. They feel the constant need to express their worth and authority by putting someone down,” she wrote.

They question their sanity, their value , their significance and importance and they can only achieve satisfaction by trying to project their fears on someone. It makes them feel in charge, it makes them feel important, it makes them feel like they’re above and you’re below. Overtime it becomes a fantasy for them to inflict pain, it becomes a craving for them to see their victim broken.

If women will be honest. You will attest to the fact that your husbands like to fuck you when you still has the injury that you sustained from his beating. You’re more attractive to him when you look miserable and worn out. It will seem like anytime you are making any sort of progress. It makes them bitter. It’s a mental disorder.

One time I fell and was in serious pains due to a sprain on ankle, my leg was swollen in seconds. All of a sudden this man wanted to have sêx with me I refused but I couldn’t resist because of course my movement was restricted due to my leg and he did have sêx with me in that condition. 

Anytime I look tattered and miserable was the time when he was most sexüally active with me, he can go from midnight till morning 5 to 6 times a week, our sex life gets a space when I look better and happier, he doesn’t seem that interested in me then, but once I look as tattered and suffering as I do now, he becomes super hyper about sêx with me . It was a cycle so I noticed it.

Does this explain why people in abusive marriages dey born plenty kids pass people in happy marriage?

I don’t wish to castigate him. I’m just sharing my honest experience. 

Edit: added a picture of what my leg looked like few mins after the sprain and that’s when he wanted to knack all of a sudden.